Eldest daughters hold up the world, what happens when your world needs holding?

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The Eldest Daughter Effect

You are responsible, organized, successful, and juggling more balls than you can quite keep track of right now. You might be caring for elderly parents, raising and launching children, running a business, volunteering for nonprofits, running a household, and so much more and you have done it all for so long. Many eldest daughters find themselves a default extra parent in their families far before that is appropriate. They learn to keep the peace, to organize chaos, and to make sure everyone else's needs are met, and their own needs are often forgotten.

The Struggle

  • Eldests often forget themselves.
  • You have been taught taught to put everyone else first.
  • You got the message that everything would fall apart without you and you've been shown over and over again that asking for help doesn't help.
  • Your nervous system holds a lonely truth: you have always been on your own even amidst people you love dearly.
  • Living for others has stopped being sustainable.

The truth

  • You've been going on grit and determination for so long you don't remember what ease feels like. 
  • You are just now finding yourself overwhelmed and feeling out of your depth.
  • Years of unseen and unmet needs have piled up.
  • The trauma of parentification has become too much.
  • You no longer recognize yourself, maybe you don't even like yourself and you are beginning to ask: is this all there is to life?

An invitation...

It can be hard to take some of the time, energy, and resources you have given to others for so long and invest in yourself, I know, I've been there.

But that investment is the seed that can grow something new, something sustainable, something life giving for not just yourself but for the people you love.

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I'm Ready

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Because of my approach, I also see psychotherapy as a process of self care and growth, and especially enjoy working with individuals who would like to use therapy as a  means of self-exploration.

If you are ready to experience the benefits of psychotherapy, tell your own story, and begin to build healthier relationships and a meaning filled life, reach out! I look forward to meeting you.

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